I don’t know who authored this fantastic piece: it’s powerful, full of knowledge, wisdom & educative! Please take time to read it over and over again….


A man’s character is his fate. Heraclitus Thomas Jefferson, the third President of the United States (US), said: “Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the *wrong mental attitude.”

As a clergyman, I have watched pitiably how people self-sabotage themselves by seeking spiritual solutions to character-deficit issues. They look around at everybody as suspects for their predicaments when their greatest demons lurks within them – their character.

What we often call our destiny is truly our character, and since that character can change, then destiny can be altered. Character is destiny .

Is prayer actually EVERYTHING? Many would begin to argue back and forth on this intriguing question, but my main purpose of writing this piece is not to get involved in arguments. Arguments don’t improve the validity of a ‘truth;’ they only determine how long it would take before you realise it.

Most people believe that we can pray ourselves to success and get away with virtually anything if we become a stickler to some prayer routines. There is no amount of spiritual penance that can substitute for character. Sometimes, you need character, not prayer.

Dutch Sheets said: “Prayer is not a check request asking for things from God; it is a deposit slip- a way of depositing God’s character into our bankrupt souls.”

British writer and politician, Thomas Macaulay (1800-1859), said: “ The measure of a man’s character is what he would do if he knew he never would be found out.” I have often said that what would ultimately destroy a man going to high places in life is not really the enemies that are waiting for him there, but the character that followed him there.

I want to emphatically underline the fact that this write-up is not meant to trivialise prayers in any way. I have observed that many people take character for granted, while overzealously tuning on into their spiritual mode.

We have become so spiritually in tune through prayers that we neglect the place of character and our relationship with people. Many are actually ‘heavenly’ bound, but with no earthly relevance. You can speak with spiritual eloquence, pray in public and maintain a holy appearance, but it is your behavior and character that will actually trigger the manifestation of all that God has for you.

You must learn to treat people with courtesy .
The Shunammite woman must have been praying for a child all through her life. By being hospitable to a man of God, she eventually got her much-awaited miracle. It wasn’t prayer that opened the door for her; it was her character. Assuming she wasn’t hospitable, she would have missed a critical miracle.

Many times, we pray, fast and bind demons that don’t exist when our real demons are just our greatly flawed character. Many have insulted people that were divinely placed and orchestrated to help them fulfil their destiny. Some people are keeping malice with their destiny helpers.

Treat people with respect.
Treat strangers with courtesy.
Never look down on anybody. God can use anyone to change your story.

Abigail Van Buren said: “The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

You can easily judge the character of a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him. The way we treat people we think can’t help or hurt us, like housekeepers, waiters, and secretaries, tells more about our character than how we treat people we think are important. How do you treat people?

One of the most impressive architectural feats and the greatest military defence project in history is the Great Wall of China. In 1987, UNESCO designated the Great Wall a World Heritage site, and a popular controversial claim that emerged in the 20th century holds that it is the only man-made structure that is visible from space.

Originally conceived by Emperor Qin Shi Huang (c. 259-210 B.C.) in the 3rd Century B.C. as a means of preventing incursions from Mongolians and barbarian nomads into the Chinese Empire, the wall is one of the most extensive construction projects ever completed.

History has it that when the ancient Chinese decided to live in peace, they made the Great Wall of China; they thought no one could climb it due to its height. During the first 100 years of its existence, the Chinese were invaded thrice and every time, the hordes of enemy infantry had no need of penetrating or climbing over the wall, because each time, they bribed the guards and came through the doors.

The Chinese built the wall, but forgot the character – building of the wall-guards. Though the Great Wall has over the years become a powerful symbol of the country’s enduring strength and spirit, but it has actually been a good reminder to the Chinese of the superiority of human character.

The Chinese realised much later that the best defence against the enemy is not a fortified wall, but a fortified character. Thus, the building of human character comes before building of anything else.

Prayer is not EVERYTHING! Build relationships, and don’t ever forget that God will always use man. Be mindful of your words and how you speak to people. Work seriously on your character and attitude towards life.

I want to say emphatically that character is not optional; it is sacrosanct to the future that God has planned for you. No matter where you place prayers, character matters. The greatest fraud in life is religion without character. A man without character is recklessly alive.

William Shakespeare captured it succinctly when he said: “The fault is not in our stars, but in ourselves .”

Peter Schutz, the former chief executive officer of Porsche said: “ HIRE CHARACTER; TRAIN SKILLS .”

Lastly, back in the days when Germany was divided, a huge wall separated East and West Berlin.

One day, some people in East Berlin took a truck load of garbage and dumped it on the West Berlin side.

The people of West Berlin could have done the same thing, but they didn’t.

Instead they took a truck load of canned goods, bread, milk and other provisions, and neatly stacked it on the East Berlin side.

On top of this stack they placed the sign:


How very true! You can only give what you have.

What do you have inside of you?
Is it hate or love ?
Violence or peace ?
Death or life ?
Capacity to build or capacity to destroy ?

What have you acquired over the years?
Team spirit or pull down architecture ?


Think about it!
Please give out the good in you always.



Trends in Etiquette Education and Workplace Readiness
Jan 6, 2020 | Etiquette Certification

Trends in Etiquette Education and Workplace Readiness

2020 is going to be a fabulous year…especially for those who want to teach children about manners, social skills and good character.

Did you know Google Education predicted the 8 global trends in education?

And guess what!

Life/Etiquette Skills and Workplace Readiness are on the list!
According to Google Education:

Parents and educators want children to have a more holistic education that goes beyond standardized testing to include social and vocational skills.

53% of teachers in the UK believe that “life skills are more important than academic qualifications in young people’s success”.

Studies shows that higher levels of emotional intelligence are linked with better leadership skills

Educators are looking for consultants and curriculums that prepare students for adult life which include life skills.

According to Goggle Education Here is What’s happening?

“91% of CEOs globally report they need to strengthen their organization’s soft skills to sit alongside digital skills.

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The workplace is looking to improve soft skills.

Their needs are:




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“Learning virtues and values such as empathy and kindness, and developing emotional intelligence are equally as important as the math and science lessons that we teach, in order for children to understand themselves, their connection to others and to the world.”

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Protocol in event management in general is very crucial. When it comes to official government and elite events, involving nations attention to details and protocol essentials are paramount.

These include: Reasons for the ceremony, Terms of Reference, Time Management Precedence, Seating arrangements, Nitty gritty of titles and forms of address, Nominal order of Speaking, Gift Giving, Flag Etiquette, Cultural Differences, How to maneuver multiple anthems, personal diplomacy, Planning, Budgeting /Execution of the event, and finally the Appraisal at the end of the event.

Without gainsaying, Precedence  is the bedrock of protocol rules or essentials. It is regarded as the nominal importance of dignitaries at gathering of status symbols, government officials or otherwise.

To bring this home, in  the local church where I worship, older members of one the groups I belong get upset if their nominal number comes after newly joined members. You know what i mean. This is emotional out pour is very correct! Why? It is because Precedence is important.

Order of Precedence comes in to use in the following :

*Government, state, and diplomats, are present at functions e. g both seating at social functions, state cum official functions.

*Organisations where hierarchy must be respected

* Order of speakers

*Order of standing on stages at official functions

*Order of Receiving lines

*Ranking for announcements which could be presidential or otherwise

*Ranking for governors and other key officials in their own state and outside their own state.

*Academic Ceremonies

*Ecclesiastical Circles

When one has the knowledge of precedence, as a protocol officer or otherwise formulate seating arrangements, ranking etc, in consonance with what is done under accepted protocol practice.

However, there are some considerations which may warrant us to shift ground from the above though not really going out of Protocol. These include: friendship and respect, “principle of curtesy to the stranger,” linguistic ability of non ranking staff, unranked spouses, courtesy to ex officio, individuals ranked in respect of the role relevant to the event or date of appointment/date of joining the organisation.


Failure to recognize the proper rank and precedence of a guest is equivalent to an insult not only to individuals and their positions, but to the organizations, parastatals and countries they represent. SOURCE: Protocol: McCaffree and Innis.

At unofficial functions, in order not to ruffle feathers, it is best to bring to bear  the protocol that determines governmental, ecclesiastical, and diplomatic precedence in official life. More light is thrown on this in this link:

There has been strained relationships, open and embarrassing quarrels, even guest threatening to leave events because of non -recognition of rank.

Take the case of Femi Taiwo and Mrs. Bolanle Ambode, the First Lady of Lagos State.

Read story at this link below:



Protocol is the recognized system of international courtesy in which every action revolves around precedence. We expect that when nations meet, relationships are built! As such, meetings between governments be in line with universally accepted codes of conduct. The practice of Protocol was formalized in Vienna in the 19th Century


Miriam Webster defines it thus: “A code proscribing strict adherence to correct precedence, courtesy and etiquette in matters of military, diplomatic, or official and celebratory ceremonies.”

“It is the application of rank and precedence used when rendering courtesies, honors, to certain persons or agencies during events…………………………….”

“More formally, it consists of the rules prescribing the etiquette accorded to ceremonies of state.”

The term “protocol” is a Greek word, ‘proto-kollen. The former  meaning the first(protos) and the latter glue. It was then a symbolic paper glued to an official document giving it authenticity. Anyway, it means the first glue. Ironically, it can said to be the glue which holds official life in our society together. Protocol rears its head where two or more nations come together. Even, at local, state, federal, organizations etc it is there to strengthen official relationships.

However, protocol is not static. It changes and develop with trends in official life.

Succinctly put, Protocol: The Complete Handbook of Diplomatic, Official, and Social Usage……….defines protocol as the set of rules proscribing good manners in official in official life and in ceremonies involving governments and nations and their representatives.

Protocol is not political either. It is all about relationship building whether interpersonal or not, it is the first step to human relations and wide world cooperation .Maintaining formalities and order in interactions help us to convey respect. Everyone is at ease to enough to make contributions thereby arriving at a collective resolutions at anytime.


Egypt from history and recorded writings, used rules to govern everyday rituals. Remember, civilization started here. They realized Man had ego, self pride etc so for peaceful execution of events etc, rules were made! These rules evolved through the centuries to become what we now know as good manner. Practiced Protocol today!

A nation’s greatness is no longer the size of its army, economic strength or domineering stance., but, how perfect is their human relations in respect of curtesy, respect, ability to work with tact and diplomacy. Moreover, we the governed are now part of this whole process.

Detailed  History of Protocol can be found at this site:

However, protocol/diplomatic practices have moved from rigidity to simplicity over time. Finally, in every encounters whether diplomatic, business, military and even personal either officially or social, protocol underlines are expected.