THE ART OF INTRODUCTION
“Introductions are a necessity, because, in a curious way, until someone is introduced into a group, socially they only half exist,” says John Morgan. Introduction brings class, poise, social competence and confidence to all in a setting. We come across people all the time in different types of social and business context or situations, what are our dispositions? Do you forget to make Introduction in your encounters? Mannerisms displayed when we meet and how we greet people in those instances, go a long way to leave indelible impressions that could pave way for either a productive or unproductive encounter. There is always no second time to make good first impressions. It is rare anyway! This brings us to the nitty gritty of the art introduction as a topic.
Why is introduction important? It is because it s a forerunner to more information about anyone. It puts the maker of the introduction in good light, removes indifference, conveys a level of respect amongst all parties, removes discomfort embarrassment and self pity.
Most people are either shy, do not have the courage to introduce themselves to a person they have never met or known, except it is done by third party who know both of them. Friends, there is always a first time, just do it yourself in any social or business function. Sometimes in parties one finds guest sitting in one corner wallowing in self pity or feeling supposedly cool with no one to talk to, warm to him or her and make an introduction, and a beneficial conversation may follow. Or you can introduce the person to someone who shares same profession, likes, same ideology or language if you know both of them, especially when you are the Host or hostess.
Shades of introduction:
There are two basic types of introduction. Business and Social introductions.
Business Introduction in business is not based on gender, but on career status, in all occasions.
Persons of lower authority are introduced to persons of higher authority. The person to whom the introduction is made is mentioned first and the introduced last. For example, Mr. or Mrs. Lower personality meet Higher personality. However, a customer or client must be regarded as “higher authority” over anyone in your organization. The same process of introduction occurs.
Some examples of order of prestige in introductions are shown below:
A customer and person working in your company
Example: Mr. Chukwuemeka, this is Mrs. Atata, our Accounting Officer. Mr. Chukwuemeka is our customer from Nnewi. The customer is more important. The customer is the one keeps you in business!
A non-official to an elected official. Example: Honorable Bob Manuel, allow me to introduce David Hastrup from the Post Express.
Always introduce anyone from the press to a public official fully for very obvious reasons, for he could be speaking on record.
The meaning is obvious and different totally from the business one which is more uptight.
Introducing World Personalities at social functions:
.Precedence is the language of protocol. Rules of international diplomatic protocol states persons should be presented to the Pope, presidents, royalty, ambassadors, ministers, dignitaries of the church, without regard to age or gender. Outside the above, gender, age, social status can now be considered in other social introductions. No rules to introducing age group.
Other introductionsRelatives should be introduced with a good clarification to their relations with you, in order to ward of misrepresentation.
Introductions should not end in just names alone, but a piece of information about the persons may be added.
A conversation may roll in because of that unique information.
Good introduction of yourself, and carriage can make you a star performer especially in the business arena. Here are some tips .
How to make an entrance and work in the roomThis refers to your entrying a room with confidence without butterflies in your stomac, mingling abilities, including the art of introductions and conversation expertise.Also, one should dress to match the occasion. note: it is how you are dressesd that you will be addressed!
All the same, at the venue one alights from the car and heads to the door. At the doorway, you can scan the room, full beautiful, corporate and intelligent people you have never met before, butterflies now develop in your stomach and your heart skips, while your legs wobble a bit. What is your next action? With your confidence gone, you now heads sideways until someone you know either comes around; you remain there until the occasion comes to an end. Could you have attended a party or business/social function? No!.However the appropriate thing to do when you make an entrance walk straight through to the centre of the room with confidence and meet your host. If you are not alone introduce the persons you are with to your host.
Introducing yourself:You can say hello or use the form of greeting you want to adopt to people you meet on the way to meet your host. With a thin smile on your lips your host will introduce you to four or five persons having a chat close by.
On the contrary you find yourself alone and feeling low, just go over to a group of people discussing (not two people engrossed in a conversation) just smile and when someone amongst them acknowledges your presence or as soon as there is a pause in their conversation, smile, offer to shake hands maintain eye contact introduce yourself telling them your name without any prefixes and concisely state your relationship with the host and if a business function, describe yourself in terms of what you do and ask if you may join them. This should be modesty done with common sense. You can equally introduce yourself to just the closet person to you too in the manner above
Sometimes the host may be too busy greeting guest, so he may appoint other guest, representatives of the company if it is a business, function to be greeters. In this case the greeter introduces him/herself and accompanies the guest to the host for introductions to the host and other guests or taken the bar to have drinks
Introducing othersWhen introducing a group pf people to each other, always use first names and surnames. This help to distinguish person who share the same first names. It s however important to use a little in the introduction if, the person is a doctor, in the military, clergy, engineer or a lawyer.
Your husband should be introduced in this manner to a friend “I d like you to meet my husband Patrick” (or “Patrick Kagua)’ do not refer to him as “Mr. Patrick” or Dr. White. This introduction takes the same order when you are being introduced by him too.
In some societies, some married women like to retain their maiden name. examples include Benezier Bhutto of Pakistan, Late MEE of then classique magazine, Onyeka Onwenu and many others. When introducing a woman of such and her husband, it should be in this order “this is Doris Day and her husband bassey Okon”. When introducing an unmarried couple living together, say thus “I like you to meet Philomena Emmanuel and her companion Nelson White.” It is not your business to mention they are co habiting.
In a formal introduce introduction, “How do you do,” a salutation, not a question, followed by the peson’s name is the response. When someone greets you, “How do you do, your response should be same.
In our culture, older persons and bosses are always respected. When for example you want to introduce your wife to your boss, always add his prefix to his name. “Dr. Nwachukwu, I’ d like to introduce my wife Stella to you. Stella this is Dr. Nwachukwu, our chairman/Managing Director.
Never repeat a peson name when introduced to you in an informal meeting. Just reply with a simle ‘helow’ or “ I’ve heard a lot about you,” if is true. Times have changed. Not the usual “I am pleased or delighted to meet you.
You could be taking a walk with a friend and another friend of yours stops to say hello. Learn to introduce the persons you are with. It is saucy to ignore his presence. In a restaurant, you find someone you know siting with friends, just say hello and pass by. Do not stop to chat. It more or less destabilizes every body, from his friends to waiters etc.
A speaker at a banquette or some officall function should be introduced with his full names, “it gives me great pleasure to present Paul Nimyel Okaka.”
Posture when introducedWomen and men should stand up when introduced to a member of the clergy, elderly persons, dignitary and guest of honour. Host and hostess always stand up to greet each guest who enters the party room. A man should always stand up when being introduced to a woman. The latter can it if she chooses except the person is very much older than her. When being introduced to a stranger always shake hands.
Once you have been introduced to somebody you always acknowledge him wherever you meet. This is because selective social memory is a charmless.
Shaking hands and the social kissYour handshake speak a lot about you. A firm one indicates a confident, courageous and daring person. In our culture a woman should wait for a man to extend his hands first especially if he is older. A younger person does not extend his/her hand to greet an elder. Although, some traditions expect the woman to make the move, it is the woman’s right to accept the man any. When dealing with amputees always extend your right hand even though they do not have one.
Greeting members and close allies. When this is to be done, go for the right side of the left one depending on your mood anyway. Most Europeans usually do this too. Have you watched Presidents when receiving foreign visitors?